Exodus uit de vuurtoren

Exodus uit de vuurtoren | Exodus from the lighthouse

HERstory, not HIStory

Dina-Perla grows up in Jewish ultra-Orthodoxy and a stifling reality, in which nothing is what it seems. As a young girl, she fights for freedom and love, flees her parental home, and decides never to return. Exodus from the Lighthouse is a gripping revelation, and deals with Dina-Perla’s extraordinary life lessons from that turbulent period. Never has such an entourage behind closed doors, including her time at the orthodox school the Cheider, been described so penetratingly and from the inside out as now.

Ten years after her escape, Dina-Perla is confronted with her biological childlessness. She sets out to investigate. Is it possible to unravel the truth? The memoir deals with some reflective testimonies, focused on the experience of the past. From a spiritual point-of-perspective, emancipated women are born. Strong women, however, are shaped through the course of their lives.

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Dina-Perla has investigated hundreds of personal stories of people who left closed-up communities. In short, she defines three main reasons why people leave, namely the behavior of other community members, some form of trauma, and the differences in terms of beliefs. Usually, people who leave the closed-up community will experience a mixture of all three, one aspect outweighing the other just a bit more.

In Dina-Perla’s case, the behavior of others was the main reason (summarized as a lack of integrity), then came trauma, and last came the differences in terms of beliefs (not the most important of the three).

Dina-Perla offers 1:1 consults in the four stages, namely breaking free, the direct reaction to where you come from, your most authentic self, and the status-quo in which where you come from is less definable in daily choices, and in the interaction with others. She concludes that many people who leave closed-up communities will see themselves go back and forth between those four stages.

Dina-Perla provides many speaking slots, experience sharing, workshops, and trainings on closed-up communities, why we should break those open, on different forms of coercion, and harmful traditional practices in the context of children’s and human rights. Moreover, on healing, and growing from trauma and loss. Personal growth on the back of a psychological, philosophical, and spiritual knowledge base, which translates into integrity consults.

Quick resources on closed-up communities, and harmful traditional practices

Spotify podcasts (Dutch) and Dina-Perla Portnaar: Hero in own story, and Children’s vision

Talk Beliefs, and Dina-Perla Portnaar
Dina-Perla Portnaar’s TED talk
Talk schadelijke traditionele praktijken en pionieren – talk harmful traditional practices and pioneering – Gemeente Rotterdam, and Dina-Perla Portnaar
EenVandaag, NPO Radio1, and Dina-Perla Portnaar
De Nieuwe Wereld, Jelle van Baardewijk, and Dina-Perla Portnaar
NH Media, and Dina-Perla Portnaar
Documentary Exodus, de Afvallige – the Apostate – and Dina-Perla Portnaar
HUMAN, Vrijdenkers – Freethinkers – and Dina-Perla Portnaar
Panel psychological abuse – Event Gemeente Amsterdam, and Dina-Perla Portnaar